There's a strength and inner calmness that comes when you feel like you're on top of things. Who doesn't want to feel this way! Yet so many people don't feel this way at all. Instead, they're busy, rushed, and stressed, as they struggle to keep up with all they have going on.
As a result, the slightest little bump that comes along can be difficult to deal with and knock them off balance.
Here are 3 reasons why you're feeling busy, rushed, and stressed; and how you can start turning things around.
1. Clutter and disorganization in your living space.
If your living space is cluttered and disorganized, that can work to totally throw you off your game day after day. The reason? Everything either takes longer to do or becomes more difficult to do. For instance, if you unexpectedly wind up spending an extra five minutes in the morning looking for that important item you need but can't find, you're now five minutes behind schedule. Multiply this a few times, and everything is thrown off before you've even left the house. You need to rush to compensate for the lost time, which leaves you feeling pressured, and your morning wound up being far busier than it needed to be.
It's much easier to function when your living environment is organized and uncluttered. The old adage "a place for everything and everything in it's place" still holds true. When you have a consistent place for things, you know where to put them, which means you know exactly where to find them. If you're struggling to get on top of clutter, don't just keep shuffling it around; ask yourself whether it's something you really need to (and want to) hold onto. If it is something you genuinely need/want to keep, find a logical place to for it.
2. Poor scheduling habits.
Do you constantly underestimate how long things will take? Do you schedule appointments back-to-back, so you're rushing from one place to another? Do you fail to make allowances for traffic or transit delays, and then find yourself showing up late? Poor scheduling habits can make it seem as if each day is a blur, as you rush from one thing to another and struggle to arrive on time.
Be realistic when planning your schedule. If you tend to underestimate how long things will take, get into the practice of "padding" your appointments with some extra time, in case things run longer than expected. Plan your travel time so you're aiming to arrive a little bit early, rather than right on time. That way, you'll have a bit of wiggle room if you get delayed. You'll arrive calmer and more relaxed, without the stress and pressure that comes when you know you're cutting things dangerously close.
3. Taking on too much and not knowing when/how to say no.
There are only 24 hours in a day; that's the reality that we all have to work with. And there's only so much you can fit into a 24 hour period, before something gets compromised. If you're taking on too much and trying to squeeze it all in, you'll inevitably feel busy, rushed, and pressured. Eventually, you may find yourself becoming exhausted, rundown, and more prone to getting sick, especially if you're staying up late and cutting back on sleep. You may start to feel anxious and overwhelmed, moreso as the effects of stress accumulate.
If this describes your life, consider what you can clear off your plate. This might mean learning how to say no at times, and not trying to accommodate every request that's made. If you believe that declining a request automatically makes you mean or selfish, try reframing things: you're not being mean, you're being responsible. And you're not being selfish; you're actually being considerate in that you don't want to agree to something if you can't come to it with good energy and your undivided attention.
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